Sunday, October 25, 2009

I'm Through with White Girls (movie)

A young African American man (about 30-ish) in LA decides to no longer date white/Caucasian women and to begin dating black/African American women. The movie's opening is of a series of white women independently reading a 'break-up' note the main character seems to leave behind to everyone of his love interests upon sneaking out. Thus ending the relationship. Upon his unsuccessful romps with women of the 'fairer' race he decides to try something 'different.'

Operation Brown Sugar
Operation Brown Sugar begins. At a bar with a friend (white, who pretends to be a hip-hop connoisseur to gain the attention of a girl also white) his attention is directed to an African American woman (who would later turn out to be his love interest) across the room. He responds saying "black girls don't date me, I can't compete with those Alpha male, Talented Tenth, football playing lawyer types." *PAUSE* Is that the explanation? Is this what men say to explain away their reasons for intentionally choosing not to date black women? To make a long story short. He ends up dating this African American woman and in the middle for a seemingly great relationship she writes her one of his infamous notes and leaves. Only to race back after realizing his mistake to find out she's already read the note and ending relationship. He realizes she's the one...blah blah blah, etc. etc. etc.....they get back together in the end.

What is the purpose of this post/movie? I'm sort of confused as to that myself. Being a single 20-something (24) African American woman I feel somehow this movie validates yet at the same time makes a mockery of us.

I prefer to date black men, although I have dated outside my race, and I am open to date men of different races, but I do prefer black men. And while I am OK with inter-racial dating and have no problem with it. I must admit there are times when I do see inter-racial couples (black men with women of other races) and I sort of cringe. I can't explain it, and maybe there is no explanation. I'm not racist by any means, and I welcome love no matter the color. I think its that a part of me wishes he (that good looking, business suit wearing, black man) was with me. Every time that happens my mind wanders to those stories and things I've heard about successful black men choosing not to date black women. And my heart sinks realizing that my chances of meeting a black man to share my life with might possibly be decreasing as my expectations for success in my partner increases.


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